5 Habits of Women Who Always Get What They Want

There are some women who always seem to get what they want, while others don't. Why is that? What is the differentiating factor that separates these two types of women? That's what we'll be talking about today. Let's explore five habits of women who always seem to get what they want—the ones for whom things just seem to work out, who achieve their goals, and whose lives appear a bit easier. This doesn't mean they never struggle or face hard moments, but these habits, mindsets, and behaviors distinguish those who get what they want from those who don't—in their lives, relationships, goals, and dreams.

Habit 1: They Focus on Their "True Wants"

One habit of women who get what they want is that they know what their true desires are and, consequently, what doesn't matter. A "true want" is something that genuinely means something to them and aligns with their values and goals. Often, we think we want something because everyone else wants it, or we believe we're supposed to want it. For example, you might think you should want a fancy car because everyone else does, but in reality, it might not make you happy. Women who get what they want know what they truly desire. They focus on it and don't waste their precious time and energy trying to achieve things they don't genuinely care about. They are not trying to do everything or get everything. Instead, they are super clear, focused, and persistent about what they do want. This habit of clarity and focus sets them apart and allows them to own their desires.

Habit 2: They Have a Strong Belief

Another defining trait of women who get what they want is their unwavering belief that they will achieve it. When you believe you are worthy and deserving of something, and that it will actually happen, you start thinking, behaving, and acting differently. This changes the game. For example, a woman who expects a man to treat her well will find one who does. A woman who expects to be wealthy in the future will be wealthy because there is no other way—she expects success. Not in a greedy way, but in a positive, self-assured way. Many people expect they will never get what they want, and so they don't. They expect to be treated poorly in relationships, live paycheck to paycheck, or never get their dream job. Their disbelief in their desires holds them back. However, when you have a strong belief, everything changes. You start acting with more confidence, and your approach to life completely shifts. When you face setbacks or small failures, like everyone does at some point, you're not as shaken because you know you'll still get what you want in the end.

Habit 3: They Ask for It

Another important habit of women who get what they want, which may seem simple but is often overlooked, is that they have no shame or hesitation in asking for what they want and communicating their needs. There's no guilt, embarrassment, or people-pleasing mentality; they simply voice their desires. Many people don't do this because they feel bad, awkward, or uncomfortable. But how can you get your relationship needs met if you don't communicate them to your partner? How can you achieve your goals if you can't even speak up about what they are? No one can read your mind or help you if you don't express yourself. Of course, this needs to be done in a loving, confident way—not in a greedy or selfish manner. The energy you bring matters.

Habit 4: They Can Let Go

To get what you want in life, you must know what you don't want. A powerful habit of a woman who gets what she wants is the ability to let go of things that aren't right for her with confidence and ease. For example, if you're dating someone who doesn't match what you want in a future husband, but you keep dating them out of fear of not finding someone better, you're acting out of fear. It's a valuable skill to let go once you realize something isn't right for you. Another example is disliking your job or industry. It doesn't mean you immediately quit, but instead of just accepting that this is your only choice, a woman who gets what she wants knows she deserves a career that excites her. She explores, networks, and keeps the door open for the right opportunity. She mentally transitions to something more suitable. It's okay to let things go if they're not right. Often, we hold on to things because we're afraid of what will happen if we don't. However, holding onto things that don't serve us takes up space and prevents new opportunities from coming in—it doesn't allow the right person or the perfect job to appear. A woman who gets what she wants knows how to let go when necessary, because she has a deep sense of trust in herself and her desires.

Habit 5: They Don’t Try to Control the Specifics

Another habit, which I believe is often underrated, is that these women do not always try to control the specifics of how things come to them. You might think that women who get what they want are very demanding, but that’s not the case. These women are clear about their desires, but they are also flexible about how those desires are fulfilled. They're not trying to control every detail of the process, and this is where many women get stuck. Not everything will come into your life exactly as you envision it. Sometimes, we receive what we want in unusual or unexpected ways. Being open to different possibilities requires flexibility and trust in the process.

You need to let go of micromanaging and embrace the unexpected. Many of the things I've achieved in my life came in ways I never expected, sometimes even triggered by stressful or seemingly negative events. Women who get what they want remain persistent about their overall goals and desires, but they are also flexible about how these things manifest. To do this, you might need to relax into your feminine energy, trust the process, and allow things to unfold naturally.